Wednesday, 17 September 2014

Square Peg



I was always a square peg in a round hole
I went about wearing shoes without a sole
While my classmates (in a play) wanted the main role
I was sure that I wanted only the sidey’s role!
When my friends chose for their career – engineering or medicine
I chose mountaineering – over-riding protests from my kin!
While my friends went ga-ga over pretty little gals
I played football and rugby with my other great pals!
I surely don’t want to just make pots of money
No wonder everyone thinks I’m crazy and looney!
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The copyright of this poem is with Mrs. Priya Ramesh Swaminathan.

Saturday, 13 September 2014

Junkies! - Please say "NO" to drugs.



Junkies say....
 
Come let’s have a drag
Life’s such a drag
Let’s escape into another world
From our drab world!

Here life’s rosy and cheerful
There’s never a lull
Let’s experience ecstasy
Live out each and every fantasy!

Let’s not have illusions
That we’ll not have delusions
Yes, it does fascinate
That we may hallucinate!

Yes, we’re in a sorry state
We confess and state
We’ve had it
If we don’t have it!

The chills are worse than the pill
Hence we pay through our noses for the pill
We run the risk of an overdose
But that’s better than being morose!

Tomorrow you’ll say, our lives are wasted
When we’ll lie before you, supine and wasted 
A lesson to one and all
Don’t heed to any drugs’ call!

Junkies plead...

Please relieve us from this HELL!
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The copyright of this poem is with Mrs. Priya Ramesh Swaminathan.
 

Sunday, 7 September 2014

Ganapati Visarjan

Dear friends,
                      In a few hours, we will be bidding adieu to our favorite Lord Ganesha. The idol that has been the centre of attraction since 10 days,
will be immersed in a bucket on our terrace. We will pray to him to take away all our worries and bless us with abundant blessings and happiness. As we will chant "Ganapati Bappa Moraya, Pudhchya Varshi Lavkar Ya" (Oh Lord, Please come soon next year!") we will be filled with indescribable sadness and hope.
                     But the Lord will always remain in our hearts and continue to be our friend, philosopher and guide.
                                                                                                                           Priya

Wednesday, 3 September 2014

To Flush or not to Flush?


       Walk past any gents’ urinal and be ready to be accosted by a strong stench of urine.  While you wrinkle your nose in disgust you wonder why people, mostly gents don’t flush the toilet after using it.  
        Before the men are up in arms against me, let me concede that there are some ladies, only some, who too forget to flush; but it’s a rare phenomenon, given their obsession with cleanliness and penchant for nagging the males, for they don’t want to give their worse halves a reason to nag (and to be smug!).
        Whether it is a public lavatory or in an office, the stench itself sets apart a gents’ urinal from the ladies one.  Isn’t this telling enough?
        This obnoxious habit of not flushing the toilet or urinal may be attributed to several factors, the foremost being laziness; and laziness is a habit which dies hard. 
        Secondly, the male tendency to expect only women to d all the ‘dirty’ tasks (as well as the tedious ones, but that’s another story!).  But who’ll flush the ‘gents only’ urinal.  “Probably it should be the gent after me.”  Yes, each one must be repeating the same and walking out; relieved!
        A friend of mine complains that in her office, she’s often the one flushing the loo after everyone finishes using it, as she’s unable to bear the stink.  May be she should be paid a ‘flushing allowance’!  (This was when she was the only female in her office).  I suggested that she look out for another job in an ‘only for ladies’ office.
        The other day I read on the internet about how a traveler on a flight dreaded walking into the loos in planes for fear of being confronted (I quote the author) by "the sprinkle on the toilet seat".  Ugh.
        The third factor is conditioning of the mind to be arrogant and insensitive. ‘This is not my job’ or ‘It’s a dirty, job’ or, ‘How does it matter? Smell what smell?’ What are windows and toilet fresheners for? Whatever!
        The fourth factor is absence of the stick, i.e. punishment.  We can or will do certain things only out of fear of a fine, a penalty or imprisonment.  The shame and the loss of face at being punished are minimal here as obviously, in a country of billions, how many men could we possibly fine and punish?  Imprisonment?  Ha ha!    There are far worthy causes to going to jail.  (I shudder to think about the toilets there!).
         Most Indian men love urinating in the open, in our country.  But you see; it saves our gentlemen from the trouble of flushing.  No water, no flushing!  How convenient!
        Indifference is another factor. Even the board proclaiming in bold letters ‘Please flush after use’ is ignored by the men who go in and come out with their cell-phones glued to their ears.
         It may be mentioned here that the same men who wouldn’t stoop to flush here in India, would bend backwards to do the needful abroad, for fear of a tight rap on their knuckles!  Different standards of hygiene, eh?
          The fifth factor is the fear of being infected with the germs and hence, some deadly disease.  How should we touch the flush knob or the mug?  God knows who has touched it and contaminated it earlier!  Yuck! 
        Sanitizers be damned!  Just not worth taking the risk!
        The scenario at home is pleasantly different. Thanks to the mistresses of the houses hounding the males and nagging them, they dare not, NOT flush. After all, woe betides one who scorns a woman!
        Lastly, men please flush the toilet and also take care to clean the spillover if any.  The whole toilet floor must look and smell clean.  Till then, our nose pegs or scarves will resolutely mask the obnoxious stench. 
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The copyright of this article is with Mrs. Priya Ramesh Swaminathan. 
                                                          

Should self-defence be part of the Curriculum for girls?



Dear friends,
                      I recently participated in an essay-writing contest organized by the ‘Garima Women’s
Forum‘of the Indian Medical Association (IMA).  I won the third prize, a cash award of Rs.500/- and a
Certificate. The topic was ‘Should self-defence be part of the Curriculum for girls?’ Kindly read this prize-
winning entry and let me know your feedback.   Thanks.
                                                                                                                                                                                 Priya        
                        
                     Should self-defence be part of the Curriculum for girls?
     The other day, I watched indulgently, as my 6 year old niece demonstrated some basic moves of karate that she had just learnt at school.  I wondered why we, as children never learnt the same at school, as I had studied in the same school as my niece.
     Just then, my glance fell upon that day’s newspaper which carried a news-item with the headline “6 year old raped in a Bengaluru school.” I got the answer to the question which had just reared its head in my mind!  Nowadays, self-defence is a necessity, not a luxury or a fad! It is imperative for the growth of a girl in a happy frame of mind!
     Yes, with rising instances of domestic violence, rape and sexual assault on women and even children and elderly women, self-defence seems to be the only option for ladies to protect themselves.  Nowadays, ladies have full-time careers, have to travel by public transport, work in night-shifts, often travel alone all over the world; hence it is imperative that they are able to defend themselves against unwanted attention and lusty sexual advances.
     As we are all aware, rape or physical abuse of any kind, have long-lasting effects on the physical and mental well-being of girls/ladies. The trauma could make them depressed and withdrawn. They could lose their productivity and positivity. They could become suspicious of all men and this could even affect their married lives and sexual compatibility with their husbands.
      Even boys need to guard against sexual predators. As theft and muggings, chain-snatching, kidnapping incidents for ransom and terrorism are on the rise, all of us need to be safe and secure and what could be better than self-reliance to protect ourselves from bodily harm?
     Being equipped with the adequate self-defence techniques, such as Karate, Taekwando, Kung-fu or other martial arts and even the basic equipments such as chilli or pepper spray cans; gives people an edge over their opponents.
     While granting licenses for guns to women is a subject of great debate, it can be considered a gutsy step in the right direction.  Nothing can scare the living daylights out of a sexual predator/stalker or burglar; more than a gun resolutely pointed in his/her direction!  Of course, the woman must protect herself from the eventuality wherein that predator could wrest that weapon from her hand and harm her with it.  Nevertheless, a weapon in one’s possession does empower a woman.  She needn’t feel helpless anymore.
     Then there’s the problem of registering an FIR with the police authorities and the ensuing legal procedures which include identification and court trials of the alleged accused.
     Most ladies/girls hesitate to approach the police and even refrain from telling their own family members about their sexual molestation or attempts at the same; fearing the wrath of the family members, insensitive comments made by neighbors and society at large and the attempts by the police officials to dissuade them from filing an FIR. Many times, these ladies are asked embarrassing questions by the policemen and have to bear taunts and insinuations that they themselves are guilty and not the accused! 
     Often lawyers try to portray the victims as ladies of loose character and morals and try to justify the alleged accused’s actions.  Thus very few of such people are actually convicted and sentenced.  Once scot-free, they resume harassment of those girls with renewed vengeance. 
     Some men, who stalk ladies, even carry out acid attacks on women who spurn their advances.
     Then there are caste-based violations of a woman’s dignity, as in the recent case of Badaun where 2 teenagers were gang-raped and murdered and hung from a tree.
     The Nirbhaya gang-rape of a young intern in a Delhi bus was a gruesome reminder of how there is lack of effective police patrolling and the general public’s apathy to the victims.
     Thus self-defence education in schools is a must as the students learn the techniques along with their studies from a very young age, when they are very flexible and their memory and grasping powers are also very strong. These techniques teach one to be agile, alert, have quick reflexes and respond in a jiffy to life-threatening situations, through tact, diplomacy and trusting one’s own instincts. They also help one to protect oneself as well as one’s companions or others in the community. These techniques can make children effectively tackle bullies, pedophiles, etc. Their parents and elders back home will also feel secure and confident in the knowledge that they can take care of themselves. They can say “Good Bye” to worries!
        They can aid in keeping one’s wits about oneself and even defuse life-threatening situations! Above all, they make one confident about oneself and one’s own ability to capably ward off unwanted attackers, etc. This self-confidence will improve one’s productivity too, as one need not fear going out alone or doing other jobs that may involve risks, such as in professions like investigative-journalism, spying, policing, providing security, etc. In fact, girls can fearlessly join the defence services, para-military services, competitive sports and other such professions where physical strength is as important as mental strength; if they are so trained right since childhood. Thus they can choose their profession and give their future the requisite direction at a very early age.
       My friend’s brother’s daughter, one day, demonstrated how they were taught self-defence techniques in school wherein they could protect themselves against their attacker’s vicious onslaughts; just by using whatever was handy, right then. For instance, an umbrella, a walking stick, even their rucksacks and belts, stones, etc. could be used effectively in warding off the culprits. They were even taught to tackle the culprits with bare hands.
         Self-defence experts, educationists and parents of school and college-going children are unanimous in their opinion about introducing self-defence in the curriculum. Even abroad, this is the norm. Recently noted film actor Akshay Kumar championed this cause when he said that self-defence must be made a compulsory part of education Curriculum for civilians; and has even taken up this issue with the Central Government.
        In 2013, the Human Resource Development Ministry had directed all State Governments to ensure that children in upper primary classes are taught self-defence as a part of their physical education curriculum. This is a very encouraging and positive step in the right direction.       
      Accordingly, the Maharashtra State Government has included this compulsory topic in the schools’ curriculum, as part of physical education; along with gender sensitization studies. Thus the educational institutions will have to mandatorily invest in this program in the best interests of our future generation. I hope this is the norm throughout our country.
      An important aspect related to girls’/women’s safety is that it is equally important that the police and security agencies are very vigilant and conscientious towards their duty. Though self-defence empowers women, it may prove ineffective when they are confronted by a large number of assailants or very strong ones! Thus external protection and self-defence are two sides of the same coin! These two aspects will complement each other and are equally vital to the well-being, security and safety of girls/women.
         To sum up, self-defence should be a part of Curriculum not just for girls, but for boys too. In the vicious, insecure, unsafe and turbulent scenario these days, it is definitely advisable to continue its implementation.  After all, as the wise old adage goes: “It’s better to be safe than to be sorry!”
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The copyright of this article is with Mrs. Priya Ramesh Swaminathan.